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In the same spirit of prevention, there is a need to ask from the health authorities of the countries where the youth are coming from, so that they too can take a renewed interest in helping these families do it in a way that diminishes the impact of the separations.  For example, aiding in the way the separation is explained to the child by highlighting the losses and sacrifices of the parent and how hard it was for that parent to leave the child. And in focusing on the youngster, stressing the need for him or her to be allowed to express his/her feelings of loss to the new caregiver, while helping them in the best ways to receive that expression so that the child finds comfort, such as offering a hug or sharing in their sadness, all of this as only a natural outcome of the separation and something that will subside in intensity with time. This kind of information is urgently awaiting wider dissemination back at home. Every time I watch a segment in the news about the parents in this country, who joined the armed forces and were sent to the war front and how they are provided with the means to communicate to their children left back home, by reading children books to them via Skype for example, my heart wishes that opportunity was available also to the immigrant parents who left young children at home.  Would it be possible for clinics, libraries, churches, or some benefactor to pay for internet time in the internet cafes, for the caregivers to bring the children to be face to face with the parent who is away and listen to a story, either read or oral, or play a simple game with a puppet, or sing some old children’ s songs with that parent? Or, perhaps in the local community center or school in the USA, someone could assist and guide the parent to video tape such an exchange and then send it via internet? All of those extra efforts and care would make an important difference for both the parent and the child in allowing the bonding to keep alive, or at least not totally extinguished.  Perhaps it would take a lot of hand holding and encouragement to engage the parents in a project like that, as it would be awakening painful emotions of loss. Perhaps they would benefit to hear that tears are OK,  as in that way the child knows it is because they miss them and love them.  And, of course the parents’ time is so taxed already; however, I can imagine that with the right encouragement it would become a great experience for the parent and the child. In fact, some immigrant parents who are more technologically savvy are already taking advantage of some of these tools on their own. However, it is still probably a minority.

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